I Forgot to Title This...Oh Well...

What's going on everybody?? Hopefully you're summer has been going well so far because mine's has been. Whether it's the job I'm working, the people I've met, the events I have planned, or even the woman (like really, she's a WOMAN) I'm talking too, my life is taking a very interesting path and I'm very curious to see where it will lead me.

Before I begin with my "countdown" I want to speak on this woman I've been talking too. I can honestly say that she is the most interesting person I have ever met...I mean no one comes close! I've only been talking to her for about 2 weeks and I would be lying if I said it wasn't too good to be true. When it comes to women I have had some bad luck or better yet I have been dealt some bad hands but for the first time I honestly feel like I have gotten what I've deserved! But that's for another day...

Okay, the countdown continues with "A Thug's Simplicity and A Man's Complexity (Part 1)." Yes, this is a blog about thugs, good guys, and all that other good stuff. It's kind of funny how much some of the things I was writing in high school still applies today which is true shame on the parts of men and women. But I have a feeling God is about to come through again in regards to this new woman in my life (I really can't stop talking about her...lol) so I really can't even complain. Well here it goes, have a good time with it...

I present to you...


A Thug's Simplicity And A Man's Complexity (Part 1)

The other day I was talking to someone about why is it that women like to go with thugs or dudes with thug-like traits. Of course I got that same old bullshit answer, "their different, they like to be spontaneous and take chances!" First thing that came to my mind was, "Why in the hell would you want to deal with someone like that?" I did some thinking and talked to some people and I made a bunch of new connections as far as why women like these type of men.

Now in this blog I'm not just going to talk about thugs but I will also talk about men and why it seems as if they just don't get any breaks when it comes to the dating seen. Let me start off with this at the least...I'm not here to offend anyone, take hits or any of that other childish BS. But I am here to help people change their outlooks on life, especially the ones that are blinded by what some call "love."

I know some of may be thinking, "what can be simple about a thug? He spontaneous, rough and he different." But I can't forget the oh so famous line, "I want to be the first to change him. I think I can change him, honestly." What in the hell!?! Why would someone say such ridiculous things!

Before I move on let me explain to you what MY definition of a thug is. First there is the real thug that will not hesitate to pimp slap anyone that wants to get out of line. Basically everyone knows what type of thug this is because this is the thug that everyone grew believing in, the stereotypical thug. Then there is the thug that really isn't a thug but thinks they live the lifestyle. These are what I call "suburban thugs" or wannabes, what ever makes your comfortable with. We have all seen them and we know they aren't real thugs because these are the same dudes that walk around with Dora The Explorer backpacks on. If your a thug why in the hell are you carrying around a pink backpack! There is not anything threatening about that! Last but not least there is a thug that few people recognize and that is what I call a "chameleon." These are the dudes that dress nice, maybe like a white guy or something out a Kanye West video, that don't appear to be thuggish but have very thuggish values or morals. Now these are hard to see by the naked eye because of their appearance but these dudes have and still do cause a lot of damage to our women.

Now let me take time to explain to you why is it that women are attracted to these dudes. The first reason is because a woman doesn't have to think when they are with these dudes, let me elaborate on that. It's so easy for us as humans to make bad decisions and not think nothing of it. But for some reason it's damn near impossible for us to make the right decision and move on like everything is going to be alright. If you don't understand let me break it down a little bit more for you. When everything that you do with your man is morally wrong but he makes it okay for you to do a little bit of this here and there then everything seems alright in the world. Basically all this is saying is that wrong is right.

The next thing is that women don't have to emotionally be there for a thug like they would be there for a real man. For example, let's say I've been bummed out for the last couple of days and my girl just couldn't figure out what's wrong with me. In a thug's case all that woman has to do is give him a little on the side and everything should be alright, cause most of the time that's all a thug is looking for, a piece of ass.

Finally, probably the biggest reason why women date thugs it because they want to be the first that changes them. Now I never understood how a woman was going to change a man that I'm pretty sure didn't have thought in his head that he was going to change. Let me explain...that thug-like persona is what attracted you in the first place so what makes you think that he's going to change if he got you with the way that he already was. Be real, a man is only going to change if he wants to change not if someone else makes him.

Now some of y'all may disagree with what I am saying but that's why I'm typing right now. I want to hear your thoughts on what I have to say and give me some input on where maybe I can improve. But for the most part I have only touched the surface of this subject. Because in Part 2 of this blog I will begin to discuss why is it so hard for a woman to be with a man and how it can be more demanding then being with a thug. I hope y'all ready for this next one because I know it's going to be a eye-opener.

I would end it like I usually do but since this is a two part blog I'm just going to leave it open-ended because I'm not nowhere near threw with this subject...

Dirty Words...lol

I swear I feel Lupe on this song!!! But if you reading these blogs and not getting a video with it (i.e. - people on facebook!!!) then you need to go to wrongissoright.blogspot.com so you can get the whole mood of the blog!

But its been a week or two since I wrote a blog but I'm here for another one. I'm about to start blogging a lot more now that it's the summertime and I want people to know what's going on in my life right (i.e. - I just shot my first commercial last Saturday!!) now and what direction I'm going in.

But yeah, I just started reading this blog again and I started to realized that the word p*ssy should not be used in everyday talk! lol...only in the bed and with the boys. It's just a real odd word!! Maybe that's just me getting older and trying to carry myself a little bit better but that's not the point. The point is that women have power, lot's of it!!! Whether us men want to admit it or not!! That's what this blog is about too. So women (and men...) I present to you...

The Power Of Pu**y

This blog is for the ladies and I know y'all gone love it! I had to give it a eye catching name because I feel like everybody needs to read this one. Because today I will be talking to you about P.O.P.

What is P.O.P. you ask? P.O.P. is the power of pussy! Yes, I said it! These days it seems like women don't really realize how much power they have and this is why they continue to make bad decisions in life. As women you have to realize that you have the power to change the way of the world, but only if you embrace this power and use it to your advantage.

Now I know some of y'all may be thinking, "why in the hell is a man speaking on this subject?" I'm doing this because I'm tired of females letting the dick run them. I know the dick can be very powerful, especially if it's good dick, but as a woman you have to realize that you spread your legs by choice, not because anybody made you.

I'm going to keep it brief on how p.o.p. can be used in a good way and a bad way but also show why women need to use this power to their advantage and not let it be used against them.

Prostitutes and gold-diggers can easily be recognized as bad uses of p.o.p. I can't knock they hustle but hell they the reason why p.o.p. is not recognized as a power for good but something that a female uses to get what they want. A woman will only stoop to these levels if they have used their power incorrectly for a period of time to only find themselves like a druggie that has found rock bottom.

Ladies the first step to the recognition of p.o.p. is to know that you have a choice in whatever you can do. As people we have been blessed in the free will department because morally we choose the path we want to take and no one can take that away from us. No man should have such a powerful influence on your life (unless he was like a husband type) to were you felt like you have to give it to him.

Next is to know that the cleaner you are the more power you hold. What I mean is that if you are giving yourself up to every other dude than chances are that you will have little to no value on yourself because of the way you carry yourself. Personally I'll take more crap from a woman that values herself than I would a woman who has had more dick than a black family has ate chicken!

As a matter of fact let me connect two and two together. In my last blog I talked of how old flames try to come back into our lives. Women this is the perfect scenario for you, because when that ex tries to come back you have to have the discipline to recognize that you hold the power and not him. Trust me I know the power of dick can be very powerful but think of it like Star Wars.

The power of dick is the dark side and p.o.p. is the good, to make more simple the dick is Darth Vader and the pussy is Luke Skywalker. Now if you seen the movie you should be able to make the connection, if not i'm going to explain it to you. Through the series Vader (dick) tries to make young Skywalker convert to the dark side. Ladies this is basically saying that men will always try to make a woman do what's not best for her. I'm not saying all men are like this but a majority of them have this mind set. Now as the series moved on Luke Skywalker began to recognize the power that he had and the more he believed in himself the stronger he got. Women when you recognize that you do have the power there is nothing that can stop you because when it all comes down to it a man will do whatever it takes to get "closer" to you. Now in the movies there was a point were Skywalker contemplated going to the dark side because he felt like they had more to offer. There will be a point or points in your life were you feel like you have to give in because a man is offering something that you feel you need whether it's love or money. Never make an impatient decision because it will come back and bite you in your ass. Ladies patience is a virtue and you never want to base a decision off what you want.

The confusion between wants and needs are all to common these days. Wants are new shoes or clothing, but needs are food and a house over your head. Be sure to not get those mixed up in your decision making because I can't tell you what you need or want, you have to make that decision on your own.

Back to my story...well once Skywalker met Vader face to face they battled and he won. Skywalker did not kill Vader though, he showed mercy and that was a huge sign of his character considering what he did to him. Now ladies what I'm saying is that never use p.o.p. to ruin a man. P.O.P. is to be used to establish a boundary on what you expect from a man and to let him know you are a woman with self-respect and that you demand to be respected. It is not meant for taking a man's pride and dignity. Because when women do this they create dog's and that just creates problems for another woman.

But in the end Skywalker prevails and it's a happy ending for everyone. When p.o.p. is used in the right way there are nothing but good things ahead.

I think I'm done for today and I hope that I really helped someone today and I know that I missed some points so don't come down on me. But I'll holla at y'all next time...

Finally Myspace is Working...

I finally got my myspace working again so I'm back on my countdown grind!!! BIG PLANS AHEAD for ya boy though!!! ZX is about to just takeover UTA!!! Alpha week coming up. I still have a lot of work to do to finish the year strong but I'm going to make it work!! Long grind ahead...in the mean time I present...

A BLAST FROM THE PAST

As I look at my clock and see that it says 12:14 AM I am realizing that I probably won't finish this blog until deep into the night and I don't care because I honestly feel like I had to release my thoughts unto my audience. To some people this may be a sensitive subject but the most sensitive subjects make the most interesting ones. I know I was not suppose to talk to y'all again till next week but I just had to get this one off my chest.

Today I am here to talk to y'all about the past and how it always comes back to kick you in the ass, especially when it comes to this relationship thing. It always seems like those ex-lovers of ours always try to come back in our lives right after we get over them and right before we receive our blessing. I'm a man that believes that when God calls, you should come running. But it just seems like when God calls and we deny his call we always end up coming short in the blessing column.

Now ladies please don't come down on me for what I'm about to say because I am a male and that is the only perspective that I can speak on this from. In the past couple of years I have seen relationships blossom, struggle, and sometimes just come crashing down. I blame most of this on the gateway drug of relationships.

I'm pretty sure that most of you are asking "what is the gateway drug of any relationship?" In my personal opinion I honestly think that when anybody tries to bring in any unresolved problems from an old relationship than your asking for trouble. Why does it seem like right when you are getting over that old flame they always want to waddle their ass back in your life? The answer to that is simple...

The biggest problem with men and women these days that tend to date under them is that they don't recognize their own worth. If your a straight A student, well on your way to college you don't need to be dating some wannabe thug that can't even take care of themselves.

When I say recognize your own worth I don't mean how much is in your pocket I mean how much can you bring to the table of relationships. If your ass is carrying all the work load then you are with the wrong person. When you get into a relationship if you feel like the person you are with isn't going to bring the same amount to the table than what you are than it's time for your ass to move on.

I say that to say this...Women! Stop trying to change these lame, ass, so-called men that ain't doing nothing with their lives. If they haven't changed for themselves what makes you think they are going to change for you! Be serious the dudes that these women are falling in love with these days are pitiful.

I've seen great women with a lot going on in their lives basically waste valuable years at a time with a dude that doesn't even want to treat them right. Now I feel this way because I'm one of the good guys that got overlooked. It's so funny to me how women can ask for a great guy but they are so blinded by the sorry one that they are with that when a good guy comes around they miss their blessing.

Now fast forward with me for a second as I try to break down why these people try to come back into the good guys and gals lives. Okay a couple of months maybe even a year has passed since you have talked to that ex-lover and it seems as if every thing is going great. Ring, ring, ring!!! Guess who it is? That tired, ass excuse for an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. STOP!!! Now if you have been keeping in contact with this ex than you have already messed yourself over, because when you fall in love with a person and were never friends to begin with than you can't keep in contact with this person because you haven't given yourself time to detach yourself from this person.

As I move on...here they are talking about how they need you back into they life and how it would be nice to get back together. STOP!!! Now if this person has made a serious change and y'all didn't end on bad terms than go for it. But if they still up to the same BS that they were up to before y'all ended it and/or y'all had a bad break up then you need to leave them in the dust.

But to sum it all up in a few sentences I'm just going to say this...the main reason the rejects try to come back into your life is because they realize what your worth and they look at it like "maybe they can get my life together," when they should be saying, "maybe I should get my life together."

The best way to counter this is to be able to recognize what your own worth is. There are to many good people out there dating bad ones instead of good ones. Myself for instance, I never knew what I was until I started to recognize the way women reacted towards me. Then when women started to tell me how I was such a great dude and how I wasn't like any other dude they met. But not only were they saying it, they were showing it through their actions. At this point I realized that I can't let anybody try to come into my party and ruin it.

You guys may not recognize your worth in this regard but you have to find that confidence within yourself to let these people know that you refused to be walked on. Never let anyone come back into your life and walk all over you. If a old flame should come into your life spit a couple of words at you and you change your mind on how you feel about them than you should seriously re-evaluate your worth. I say this because no one person should run your life with just a few words unless it's God.

What I'm saying may be hard to swallow or to do but for those of you that are good people and do want the most out of life don't settle with an old flame knowing they couldn't get on your level even if God came and gave them a jump start.

Now there were a lot of missed points in this blog so don't jump down my spine because none of this was thought out it all just happened because I felt something moving through me. Damn!!! It's 3:38 AM!!! I must really love doing this cause a girl couldn't keep me up this late!

So long for now and I'll catch y'all next time for another segment of...

WHEN YOUR READY TO STOP DRAWING CIRCLES

INTIMIDATION!!!!

Finally I'm back blogging again. My computer caught a nasty virus so it placed me outta commission for a little bit but I'm not even gonna trip off that. It's a lot of things going on in my life right now, so I'm just gonna try to go day-by-day w/ my accounts because if I did it all at once it would be too long to blog. But y'all should really listen to the song I put on this blog because that's how I've been feeling and I feel like now is the time for me to make major moves in my life...

But today it's all about this thing that has been plaguing the mess out of me...INTIMIDATION!!! Am I intimidated by some unnamed man/woman? Hell no, but there may be some out there that may be intimidated of me. I really don't care about the men it's more so the women that got me all messed up in the head...

I just got back from Tulsa yesterday from this regional alpha convention I had (A Phiiii!!!). It was a great trip, met a lot of bruhs and made many connections. The trip really re-motivated me and made me proud to be an alpha man and, of course, better my own chapter so that we can be recognized as productive alpha men. Anyways, this is really besides the point...I'm really trying to get at the fact that I was in Tulsa and of course that means I got to kick it with my bgf (Best Girl Friend) who I've been knowing for some years now. I had a great time seeing her and everything but when I had my post trip conversation with her I found out something which just messed me up...

Me and her talked about one her friends and what her friend said about me. Well apparently I came off as very intimidating to this woman. Not in a threatening way but in a manner that made her not even want to ask me for her number. Funny!!! hahaha!!! Okay, not so much, but honestly that isn't the first time that I've heard that I have intimidated a woman before. I just have a hard time understanding how a man can intimidate a woman?!

Perhaps it's because I'm so use to meeting women who talk about how they want a man that can do this and has that but whenever they finally meet that man all of a sudden it seems like they aren't apt to handle him in the same way that they have handled men in the past. I honestly don't think it's self-esteem issues or anything like that. It's something else, I just can't place my finger on it...

I'm curious to see what various women, some that may know me and some that may not have to say about this and if they have ever been intimidated by some men before. There are so many different types of men out there that come off as intimidating and apparently I'm on of 'em. It sucks too because I love to socialize and talk to people (especially women) but it always seems as if there is some sort of wall between me and some women and honestly feel like intimidation plays a role in it.

Back to what I was saying about women not being apt to handle these type of men though...I don't necessarily mean women can't handle a good man or whatever, not by the least bit. But what I'm saying is how can you knock a woman for being intimidated by a man they are not use to dealing with on a regular basis? I can't be mad at women for feeling this way and this is based on the fact that these women get approached by men that's all about running game and what not that when someone real comes along it's almost a shock to the system. I think that says a lot about our society when a woman does not know how to deal with a man being genuine...but that's for another day...

P.S. - Shout out to all the alphas I met at the convention this weekend!!! More to come though...

The Countdown Begins...The Im-Perfect Man

Here I go again with another blog but I felt that it would only be right for me to put some of my old material up first so people could kind of get a feel of how I blog. Now i'm going to be honest...I wrote most of this old material when I was a senior in high school...I'M A SENIOR IN COLLEGE NOW!!! So naturally some of this stuff may seem a little off but nonetheless pay it no mind! lol...Anyways, I don't even know what type of mindset one would have to be in to read this so I just ask that you remain open about it! But ummm...I got my twitter up or at least I finally updated it again so it would be cool if you guys would follow me there as well as here. If not i'm going to be keeping twitter updates on here too so you can't really escape it. Hopefully I can blog about what's going on currently later on but till then just read and enjoy!!

P.S. - Sorry if it's too long. I'm trying to work on this whole short-attention span thing...lol

And now I introduce to you...THE IM-PERFECT MAN!!!!!

Damn! Why is the world so confusing these days! I just don't understand this whole nice guy thing. Well I do it just don't make any sense sometimes. The whole thug thing is in the past now it seems like most of my lady friends are starting to grow past that so that's a blessing. But the whole nice guy thing is more confusing than the thug thing was!

Okay i'll admit i'm a nice guy and it seems as if it's my turn at bat but the only problems is instead of the pitcher throwing the ball to were I can hit it or strike out they keep throwing damn balls and letting me walk my ass to first base. Now my only problem with that is the fact that because they know i'm bout to hit a homerun they intentionally throwing balls so I can walk. I know some of ya'll may not understand my terminology so i'm going to break it down to you...

I've sat down and looked at my life or at least my relationships with the ladies and I noticed that I have good relationships with all the women that I choose to have good relationships with. That's great but there is this ideal "Perfect" man out there that basically every woman has the same idea about whether their black, white, asian or whatever. But when I sat down and thought about it there really isn't a "perfect" man out there but there is an ideal man for every woman.

I'm pretty sure you may be thinking why would I speak on such a subject, it's probably is because as a good guy I have been placed under many criticisms and have been through many denials but never has it been because I was a bad dude but because I was to good of one. When I say this it may sound histerical but i'm going to be real with ya'll for a second. It seems like every woman wants a good man but it sounds like not everybody is ready to step to the plate of dealing with a good man. I have an idea why but it could very well be a stereotype...

Woman have a tendency to be very indecisive and unstable this is why alot of women like to deal with thugs or maybe even a dude with very "player" like attributes to them. But the one thing that many women can't deal with is a man that is stable and knows what he wants out of life. When I say stable I mean that you can guarantee that he's going to be the same man he was when you first met him to after 3 or 4 years that you have known him if not he is going to be an even better man than when you first met him.

Now what i'm saying may not apply to every woman out there but I know it applies to someone. The one thing that I figured out about myself is the fact that it's not that women don't want to be with me, it's the fact that they don't want to ruin me. I've been through my fair share of love interests and i'm still in love with someone right now, but at the same time it doesn't mean that if I date someone it's going to make me less of a man or a person. God made me the way I am for a reason and it wasn't to share it with myself.

If you think that's bad let me get real personal with ya'll for a minute. If anything makes me different from any dude ya'll have ever met it's the fact that i'm a virgin not only have I never had sex before but I have only kissed two women in my entire life so that let's you know anything in-between those two lines. I'm not a virgin because I can't find a girl it's because I choose not to do that. This has been a positive but it seems like there are always negatives that out weigh the positives.

To me the V word is not a sensitive subject and i'm willing to talk to anyone about it if they would like to know because I take pride in what I am. With the woman that I have talked to many of them, well...really just about all of them don't even want to get involved with me just because of what I am and to me that's a cop out. I honestly think it's a shame that a woman rather be with a boy that can't even handle his own business rather than be with a man that's about handling his business and improving the lives of the people around him.

This is real talk for anyone that feel like they need to leave this page or get off the computer for what they are reading right now. I honestly feel like God takes people certain places for a reason and today he brought you to this page because whether it's now or later but what i'm saying is going to affect your life. Back to what I was saying...

Now that i'm a grown, ass man and about to go to college I honestly feel like my situation may not change and as far as with the other good guys out there their situation may not change either. But i'm not expecting for the good guys to change, because there is going to be a day where they meet a woman that's willing to step up to the challenge of dealing with a good man.

This is not a blog so that people could feel bad for me, laugh at me or whatever but rather a blog that allows people to look at their own lives and find a middle ground some where in their lives. I understand this may even change some people but just understand i'm not taking hits at anyone or intentionally trying to make anybody feel bad. This is just the way I release my thoughts to a vast audience allowing people to understand why i'm the way I am and let women know that there are men out there that think of things that don't even pertain to sex. As a man, especially a black one, I feel like it's mandatory for me to let these people know that there are good black men out there and that some of us do think with our minds and not with our dicks.

I'm through with what I have to say today but tune in next week for another installment of...

WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO STOP DRAWING CIRCLES

That's the name of the blogs that deal with this relationship sort of stuff.

P.S.S. - Please leave comments on how you feel cause it's always nice to know what's on ya'll minds and I must've been going through some serious issues!!!

It feels so good to be back...

I'm finally back to my old ways again! I've been saying I was going to start my own blog for the longest and I have finally done it because I want to procrastinate on this essay I need to be doing and i'm bored but mostly the procrastination reason...

But anyways for those of you that read all my old blogs (which I know won't be many of you) it's going to be some of the same old stuff but I got to mix it up a little bit. This blog site that I have created is really for me to vent out and really have an avenue for me to share my thoughts with those of you that are just looking for a good read. Whether it's relationships, sports, college life, family, whatever it may be it's going to be right on this blog site. But what I would love to happen is for you guys to follow my blog and add your thoughts to it also. If you know me you understand that i'm a very selfless person and this is just another way for me to help others out with my thoughts. Of course any and all videos that I create will be posted on here and i'm probably going to be giving links to all my favorite music that comes out (as long as it's legal)...lol

However, my next big project that i'm currently working on is this radio show that i'm talking about starting. Yes, i'm dead ass serious when I say i'm going to start a radio show and I know it's going to be some funny ish!!! But guest and all that kind of stuff will be on there and it will be a lot more personal then most radio shows so you gotta be ready for that when it hits the net!!

I was going to vent out about some issues and thoughts that I have been recently dealing with but it's late, i'm tired, and I don't think my first blog should be about something sad or whatever so i'm just hitting ya'll with this quick about me section to jump it off the right way. But i'm done for the night so i'm going to get at ya'll later...

P.S. - I will be posting up my old blogs on here probably once or twice a week just to fill the void of me not blogging everyday since I am a college student. Plus, I need to get rid of this myspace so it's almost like a countdown for me!!! Ha ha (Jadakiss laugh)!!!